Advice dating friends ex
If there is strife, again the issue is sin (James 4:1-2).What may be needed, should this man ask you out on a date and should that date lead to a relationship that in turn leads to a falling out with your friend, is help learning how to walk biblically in friendship. That wouldn't be an uncommon fear on your part, or an uncommon response on hers, but it would be a symptom of a deeper problem and not necessarily reason enough not to date him. Are you worried that she'll be upset if you start dating this man she once dated?Often relationships that show potential turn out not to be a great fit.Both man and woman should part, wishing the other well in their ongoing search for a spouse, with the goal being a God-honoring marriage. The solution is the cross, not avoiding dating the one who will give cause for jealousy.We're commanded as believers to rejoice with those who rejoice.
(That's another area for prayer and patience, and the ability to trust in God's sovereign plan.) It's no reason to begrudge him, though.
Where you let those emotions lead you, or not, has everything to do with your convictions about what makes for a good, and also appropriate, relationship. What that doesn't mean is that you must pursue him for anything other than a cordial buying-and-selling-of-vegetables relationship.
You may find yourself one day being a married woman who happens to find her grocer attractive. You may find your dentist or your pastor or your neighbor attractive in the generic. It shouldn't come as a surprise: We're made in God's image, and He makes interesting and attractive people.
(This is true of every man you consider dating, not just this one.) If your friend and this man conducted themselves biblically, however, with all purity (1 Timothy 5:2) even as they tried to determine if they were a good match for one another, and decided in the end that they weren't, there's no reason they should feel tied to one another, or have any sense of ownership or influence over future relationships.
If your friend cares for this man and wants what's best for him — and if they had a godly breakup — she should rejoice if the two of you decide to date and possibly marry.